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In other, more exciting (mm... not the right word) news, Hubs and I have decided that if we are not with child by next August, we are high-tailing it out of this crap Ohio city to live somewhere fun. We are giving it until next August because we bought a house here two years ago under that awesome $8,000 tax credit that stipulates you have to be there for three years or else have to pay some of it back (Um, no thanks. We spent that chunk of change a loooong time ago). And next August will put me at five years in my current job, which will also make me vested in the kickass retirement program (seriously, my employer puts in 14%!!). I'd hate to walk away from that, being only 14 months away.
We settled in this particular city is because it's where I'm from and my whole family lives here. Hubs' family is only an hour and a half drive. And it's where Hubs and I went to college, so we've laid some roots here. And we thought we'd be having babies by now and we'd need a supportive network of friends and family to help us out with free babysitting and what not.
But it turns out, a lot of our friends have moved away (to way more fun cities like Denver and San Diego and Portland and Charlotte), and the ones who are still here have had babies. Their lives are very different from ours and sometimes it's painful to be around them. We still aren't any closer to having our own babies. And I know my brother and sister are going to start having kids in the next year and I can't tell you what a mess I'm going to be then. I think I'll feel kind of left behind. Like all these people are moving on with their lives and we're still stuck where we've been for the past year. When my baby brother and even babier sister start to have kids, it'll hit me how really stuck we are.
Those are just my predictions, but I think it's reason enough to set our sights on trying something new. We've always wanted to try a new city but haven't felt like the timing would allow us to do it. And I don't care if it sounds like we're running away from our problems. Hell, I don't care if we ARE running away from our problems. Screw that. I'll run if I want to!
Anyway. I'm off to Indy this weekend to suffer through another baby shower. Yippee for me!
Wow. My hubs and I had THAT conversation tonight, too. You know, the one about what we will do/where we will go if we are not pregnant by X date. It's not running. It's making a promise to yourselves that you will make the best of your lives. No more waiting around and planning everything else around a baby. If the baby happens, then plans can change. But we don't need to wait around to find out.
ReplyDeleteSorry you have to endure another baby shower this weekend. You're stronger than I am... don't think I could handle that kind of hell.
Hugs to you, my dear.
Sorry to hear that you have been sick. Hope you are feeling better now! Sounds like no matter what happens, there will be some exciting changes in your life within the next year or so. Best wishes!
ReplyDeleteI think it's great to plan for "what if." Even though nothing can take the place of a baby, it at least gives you something to look forward to if the baby plan doesn't pan out the way you would like it to.
ReplyDeleteDo you and your husband have any particular city in mind?
We talked about it this weekend and we are thinking somewhere west! Maybe San Diego or Portland? Those are both REALLY west, so it would be pretty tough to be THAT far away, but we're open to ideas!
DeleteI've had similar thoughts about moving and though I tell myself its because I have lived here for 8 years and would just like to try living somewhere else, I know its partially because I've watched almost every friend here get pregnant and I'm starting to feel left behind. We bought our house only a year and a half ago and I'd like to get more time in it with the hopes the market will improve, but there's a decent chance we might be out of here in a couple years as well. Sometimes a change of scenery is what you need.
ReplyDeleteDone! Thanks for including me, and I'd love to see the results when you're finished. Sounds like an interesting topic!
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